Guten Tag, Enkelin (Hello, granddaughter)


Last Wednesday, Leah Waitzer, long-time trustee and pillar of our community, paid a visit to Dennis Manning to discuss several matters of school importance.  As she made her way through the arch, she passed the assembled exchange students from Copernicus-Gymnasium Löningen in Germany together with their American counterparts and hosts.  Ms. Waitzer thought back to 1978, the year her son Brad participated in what was then the sixth year of our German exchange.  And so she went looking for one particular student in the crowd. waitzer kbf fix

You see, Brad and a fellow named Marcus Willen had been paired for that year’s exchange. That is, after Brad’s stay under his roof in Europe, young Marcus (who would go on to become Mayor of Löningen) had stayed with the Waitzers here.  Evidently the kids hit it off very well and kept in close touch over the years.  Similarly, Leah and husband Richard had struck up a continuing correspondence with Marcus’s parents inasmuch as both had come to know the other’s child so well.  In particular, Leah and Lieselotte Willen, Marcus’s mom, because as close to one another as could be given the circumstances. You have to remember that this is the 70’s and the 80’s, and “correspondence” means sealed envelopes with stamps bearing words such as “Air Mail.”  As the exchange wore on, other means of communicating developed; perhaps younger siblings, cousins, friends, or repeat chaperones might be counted on to bring messages and maybe even gifts from one side of the ocean to the other.  But the long and the short of it is that against long odds the two mothers somehow maintained a real friendship.

And so when Ms. Waitzer realized the incredible felicity of the encounter, she asked if she might be introduced to Pauline Willen, son Brad’s exchange partner’s daughter and thus  Lieselotte’s granddaughter.  Suddenly, Ms. Waitzer found herself face to face with a young woman two generations along, one who might legitimately call her an adopted grandmother.  The two hugged and chatted and exchanged promises to continue in more depth when there was time.  And in fact, Pauline went to dinner with the Waitzers for something of a family reunion.

As I say from time to time, there’s a lot going on here.

The first is simply the cumulative passage of time.  We point with pride to the longevity of the German exchange, but numbers become more real when two women three generations apart celebrate that span of years by embracing under the arch.  Exchanges are fragile things, vulnerable to changes in politics and culture and the unpredictable fortunes of schools, but ours has survived more than just intact – it has flourished.   It hasn’t hurt that leadership at both schools has been consistent, most incredibly in the fact that the NA side of the equation has been directed by the same person for all those years, the inimitable Katherine Holmes.

The second is how much circumstance had changed from the time Leah and Lieselotte might have been eligible age-wise for such an exchange.  Suffice it to say that for obvious reasons a school like Norfolk Academy would not have been at all interested in an exchange with a school in a nation at war with most of the world. The delight of the reunion of adoptive grandmother and granddaughter stands in sharp contrast to the misery of 1942.  And yet these two adult women became so very close despite realities that would have kept them apart as girls.

Third is the enduring notion of family.  It’s a word we don’t use here as often as we used to.  I guess with a school community some 1400 strong now for two or three generations it is a pretty big family, but I miss hearing the word all the same.  Family connotes more than just blood relation, even more than love.  I believe that at the core of the idea of family lies shared experience.  It can be as simple as the memories of young siblings in the back seat of the family car on a summer trip or as complicated and perhaps even as painful as the loss of family members, either by death, distance, or disagreement.  But in all of these things there is a sharing that takes up personal residence in the soul.

When it is two families, kept apart by oceans and generations, that reunite through a hug under the front archway, then the sense of sharing explodes with all the energy stored up by time and physical distance.  I am closer in life’s timetable to Leah Waitzer than I am to young Pauline, so perhaps I identify more with the former. For example, just a few years ago I got to spend a little time with a young woman whose father was my best friend from summer camp and whose mother was my wife’s best buddy in high school, neither of whom we had seen in quite a while.  It was a wonderful few hours, almost as if I had been transported through time.  I cannot imagine how delicious it must have been for Ms. Waitzer to have an additional generation to travel.

Finally, this whole episode reminds us that our school is fundamentally about the business of sending men and women out into the world to do good.  A hundred years ago the “world” might have been a small place – Tidewater, or maybe Virginia.  Today the word “world” means exactly what it says, including a small town in the north of Germany.  And to have that first meeting of these two women happen under an arch is incredibly meaningful.  Norfolk Academy is in many ways an arch, connecting and holding up pillars, helping them sustain weight, and letting air and light and life pass underneath and through. In this particular case, our school spans three generations, an ocean, and the tide of history.

Auf Wiedersehen, Fräulein Pauline.  Till we meet again.

A Matter of Experience


At a place like Norfolk Academy it is important that every member of the faculty have a range of experiences outside the narrow world of a field of study. That is, when you set about the noble task of helping youngsters turn into adults, knowing your Shakespeare or your physics is necessary but simply not enough. It is one reason we put so much stock in the teacher-coach model. The intellectual development of young men and women is an important part of growing kids up, but it is hardly our sole objective. Perhaps the best way to phrase it is that we seek to ensure that our students will be wholly prepared to deal with the unpredictable nature of the world they enter upon graduating.

Horstman 1It necessarily follows, then, that each member of our faculty needs to have had experience dealing with the unexpected. We strive to hire and retain teachers and coaches who can pass along what they have learned in confronting the unfamiliar in their own lives. I have polled the Middle School faculty and have confirmed that we have achieved considerable success if that is in fact our goal.

To wit –

Jack Gibson once saved a lamb from drowning in a river in Germany.

Nick Merklin played semi-pro football in Serbia.

Lisa Marie Priddy taught English in Thessalonica, Greece.

I once posed for a summer camp catalog cover photo with a 350 pound brown bear. Concealed from the camera was the squeeze jar of honey I had previously offered to get the bear to rise on her hind legs and come for me.

Elbert Watson danced in New Zealand as part of a multi-media presentation featuring former lower school art teacher Tim Mark.

Heidi Pollio served as an au pair for the children of two nudists in New Jersey. She needed the money, okay?

Woody Poole ate a five-year-old fermented chicken egg while stationed in the Philippines. The fact that he was in the Navy provides no explanation.

Mike Horstman was air-lifted overnight to the jungles of Vietnam while training in sub-zero Alaskan temperatures for “Operation Polar Strike.”

You can’t top that one, I’m afraid.

Our kids will certainly be stretched intellectually here. In the Upper School alone there are four PhDs. (I love that Richard Oberdorfer, who shares an office with Natasha Naujoks and David Rezelman, refers to his space as “two doctors and a patient.”)   But Tunstall students are also exposed to a lifelong EMT and an emergency room volunteer and a former Navy Seal. Not only do the students rub shoulders daily with these men and women, Tennisbut as a faculty we do as well. I cannot tell you how much my view of the world has been expanded by sharing a campus with such a stunningly broad scope of personalities and life stories among the faculty.

I think I’ll go get some advice from a fellow (Mike Duquette) who beat Andy Roddick in tennis twice, once on a hard court and once on clay. Bet he has a thing or two about competition he could teach me.

Another Visit with An Old Friend


Happy New Year!!  It’s been a long while since the last Chronicle, and one of my Resolutions for 2016 is to be a better and more frequent communicator in that regard.  So . . .

The current state and future of our Honor System was the main focus of our annual day-before-second-semester faculty meetings last Monday.  In that vein I was asked to give a brief history of that system, focusing most heavily on its present incarnation, the one started by Mr. Massey and Mr. MacConochie upon their arrival in 1950.  I could not help but look at more ancient texts, and with my wife the archivist’s help dug up some jewels.  For instance, in the “Rules of the School,” published upon the Academy’s 1787 reopening after the Revolutionary War, the standard for expulsion was set at “Notorious Immoralities.” Heaven knows how that phrase might be defined today!  

In trying to bring what was a new idea in 1950 to its present condition, my wife scoured many issues of The Belfry and found quite a treasure trove.  (For those of you born in the last two decades, there existed for some four decades a monthly newspaper called The Belfry, printed on heavy paper and full of legitimate news, opinion and humor.  The rise of digital communication has rendered such a publication relatively obsolete.)  In any event, there were many opinion pieces on this or that problem with the Honor System as well as many pieces extolling its virtues. At one point Frank Batten, Jr. and Craig Slingluff went toe to toe on several aspects of the system. Young Mr. Batten opined, among other things, that students should be shown more freedoms (unproctored tests for seniors, for example) to give the concept of “community of trust” real meaning.  In the next month’s issue, the future Dr. Slingluff replied that this would create too much temptation and that the Honor System was here to “teach” students, not “test” them. 

As I read piece after piece about the very same things we debate in earnest today – on Monday, in fact – I became initially saddened that after 65 years we still haven’t perfected the use of open lockers.  I regretted that after 65 years we have still not figured out exactly what is the duty of a student upon witnessing a violation.  Why, I asked myself, have we not yet arrived at a system of consequences for honor offenses with which everyone is comfortable?  Are we ever to get this exactly right?  

And then after a few moments’ reflection, I realized that the answer to that question is an emphatic “No.”  More than that, I realized that “no” is the best answer. Many years ago Mr. Massey famously observed that our Honor System has not “arrived.”  The clear implication is that it never will.  Trying to improve the System is our currency.  It is what we trade in.  Discussing vital questions of good and bad and of right and wrong brings us together as a faculty.  And if after all these years there is still no resolution on these important issues, perhaps that is because in the realm of the possible there can be no such resolution.


Headmaster Dennis Manning and the Honor Council hold an interactive discussion with the faculty at the start of the academic year.

My presentation was followed by a short film showing what an Honor Council meeting looked like, followed next by Cosby Hall’s summarizing the results of the most recent poll of Tunstall students as to their views on the state of honor at Norfolk Academy.  There was much discussion among faculty about several of the issues raised by those results, again, with no definitive resolution.

But it was uplifting to sit in a room with valued colleagues and talk about concepts so central to the soul of our school.  I certainly might have differed slightly with a few of the things said, but that doesn’t matter.  What matters is that on display for a few hours on a cold January morning was the embodiment of that phrase we use so often and I have already used once herein.  We are all lucky enough to be members of a real, functioning community of trust. And that is a rare privilege, indeed.  

I’ll get back to you soon – seems there’s some sort of resolution involved.DSC_8185


Tempus Fugit (In memory of Lucy Penzold and Mary Lou Murray)


The recent past has witnessed the departure from this earthly reign of Lucy Singleton Penzold and Mary Lou Murray, who taught in our lower school for a combined 48 years. As such, their impact on the school, but more importantly on the Hampton Roads community, cannot be overstated. And while I will take occasion here to remind us of their many fine qualities as teachers and human beings, it is the passage of time that demands my attention just now. Some of Mrs. Penzold’s students are approaching 70; some of Mrs. Murray’s have just reached 40. That is an enormous, even a daunting number of living years to consider . . . but let’s try anyway.

penzoldMrs. Penzold was, in the words of long-time Lower School Director Charlie Cumiskey, “one of a kind of the ‘old school marms.’” Mr. Cumiskey goes on to say that while technically he was her “boss,” in fact he was more accurately her colleague and quite often her student, that he learned more from her about teaching than vice versa. She somehow managed to be “proper” without being “prim.” Similarly, she ran a very strict classroom at the same time that her love for her kids was always evident. In a very formal classroom she made Greek mythology come absolutely to life for a room full of 10-year-old boys. I’ve never met anyone who wasn’t grateful that he had Mrs. Penzold in either the third or the fifth grade.  (Pictured right)

Mrs. Murray took a slightly different route to pedagogical greatness. Unlike Mrs. Penzold, Mary Lou wore her love for her kids on her sleeve. She ran a class bubbling over with joy. There were hugs and smiles daily. Every year she picked an animal as a mascot for her first grade girls. Her last class, the one that will graduate this year, had pink flamingoes as its mascot. Those girls, every one of them, including those no longer at school here, entered the sanctuary at her funeral, hand in hand, each wearing pink. If that isn’t love, I don’t know what is.  (Picture right with  students Tabor Furr ’13, Kathryn Fink ’13, Rachel Cook ’13, and Allison Bernert ’13)

But as I said at the outset, this is not intended to be simply a celebration of two lives. It’s just that Mrs. Penzold’s students are five decades plus out of her room, and Mrs. Murray’s are well into their fourth. And yet most remember their lower school days and their beloved teachers with a clarity that defies the passage of time. What is it about the time with a loving elementary school teacher that shortens the temporal distance between then and now? The brain scientists will tell you that early memories are changed every time they are brought to the surface – that the next time we dredge up an old memory we are really remembering the preceding call-up, not the event itself. Thus, we have learned, childhood memories can be greatly altered simply by the act of going to them from time to time. But the brain is not all about cognition and memory.

The connection, I believe, must be emotional. Whether or not your second-grade teacher said exactly what you remember her saying, it is the emotional bond you are really experiencing and not some particular event. I have had students from long ago tell me that they remember with great fondness something I said without my being to recall any of it. Maybe I didn’t say exactly what was referred to – but I must have said something that stuck. I hope it is because the young man or woman had forged some relationship with me that went beyond a lesson. It’s what we do here when we are at our best.

I sat in Mrs. Penzold’s third-grade class in the little red schoolhouse on North Shore Road for the 1961-1962 school year. My daughter Caroline sat in Mrs. Murray’s first-grade room for 1989-1990. I remember loving every day of school, and my daughter says she feels the same. And 80% of lower school days are spent in one room with one teacher, so the love comes from the woman at the head of the room. Multiply the good will generated in each child by the many generations of kids that were there in those rooms and you get a massive supply of emotions, almost all of them good. The best part? That the phenomenon is ongoing today.

Goodbye, Lucy. Goodbye, Mary Lou. Thanks for the memories.

Small Favors


On Friday, September 11th, the entire Middle School ventured out into the community as part of the United Way of South Hampton Roads “Day of Caring.”  Nineteen buses carried kids and their faculty chaperones to nineteen different locations to perform community service for most of the day.  The entire undertaking was a huge success.


There was much weeding and cleaning to be done around the visitor center in First Landing State Park.  There was a mighty lot of trash to be picked up in two Virginia Beach community parks.  There were senior citizens to be sung to (and in the case of Caroline Bisi, to be serenaded by) at Atlantic Shores Retirement Community.  There were first graders at Little Creek Elementary school to be read to.  At these and the other fifteen locations, students gave of themselves in differing ways.  After 3 hours or so the kids enjoyed the lunches each one had packed and they headed back to school.

Upon returning to school they stayed in their groups for an hour or so and reflected on how the day had gone and how each of them had managed to contribute in some way.  Most groups made slide shows or short videos, all of which were shown to the now-reunited student body in Price Auditorium.  The combination of the breadth of the kids’ service and their considerable creative talents made for a very impressive display.  As the kids headed off to practice or to rehearsal I sat doing some more reflecting of my own.


My first conclusion was that this event was masterfully conceived, planned, and executed.  (This coming from a fellow who spent six years as a lawyer organizing sometimes very complicated financial transactions and bringing them to a successful close.)  What Maria Moore and those who worked with her pulled off was nothing short of amazing.  352 Middle school kids are essentially 352 wild cards.  You must anticipate the unexpected at any turn. For example, one group had to endure a lockdown at the school they were visiting because of a police matter several blocks away.  No problem – just another day at the office.  No one missed a bus, no one went hungry, and no one got lost or mislaid.  You will have to trust me on this one –conducting this endeavor without a hitch was a major miracle.

My second conclusion was that the big miracle spawned many small favors.  The gentleman at Atlantic Shores who crooned “Let Me Call You Sweetheart” to Ms. Bisi had a slightly better day than he might otherwise have had.  The first-grade girl in Room 157 at Mary Calcott School’s day was made just a little better by playing word games on the floor with one of our eighth graders.  The people who visited First Landing the next day were just a little more impressed with the visitor center.  All those hundreds of small favors add up to another major miracle.


My final thought was more a wish than a conclusion. I sat there hoping that perhaps the day itself did a small favor for our students.  You bring middle schoolers through their years here one small step at a time.  While there are a few “Ah hah!” moments, you have to take the long view to see them develop and mature. Maybe, I thought, just maybe, we brought them a little closer to the realization that they are crucial parts of a larger and often imperfect world.  Maybe we helped them, in the words of a very wise mentor of mine, “get outside themselves” for a little while.  You can only hope.    

Hate to do this to you, Ms. Moore, but let’s do this again.  Soon.

Click on the link below to see some of the student presentations and a slide show put together by Middle School Science Teacher Elizabeth Glassman. I promise you’ll be impressed, and maybe even a little moved.

Paws for a Cause Reflection Video

The Calling


Since the Savage Chronicles debuted in 2011, the opening-of-school edition has always sprung from words uttered by Headmaster Dennis Manning in the final faculty meeting prior to the beginning of classes.  At the risk of endangering job security, this year we will focus on the first divisional meeting of Royster faculty on Tuesday, Aug. 25.  I have been attending faculty meetings in some shape or form since 1975, and I can say that never have I been more inspired than I was at the end of that meeting.

After a few minor matters of business, Royster Director Matt Sigrist dug into the real “stuff’ of a middle school – the formation of meaningful relationships between faculty and students. He reminded us that grades seven through nine can be tumultuous, confusing times, and the availability of a caring adult for each student is at the very heart of what we do.  He talked of our designing schedules and systems that maximize the opportunities for those relationships to develop and flourish, and he urged each of us to focus on simply being there for the kids.  Heady words indeed.


But what followed really got to me.  One by one, Cecil Mays, Ari Zito, Brooke Fox and Trish Hopkins stood up and answered the question “Why I teach.”  Cecil talked of the role of teachers in the creation and maintenance of civilization.  Ari talked about teaching being in his genes.  Turns out both parents and his sister are all teachers.  He has always been drawn to this vocation, including his remarkable leadership of the Breakthrough at Norfolk Academy program, which has done so much for so many children of promise in the Norfolk public schools. Trish Hopkins reminded us that the purpose of teaching kids can only be fueled by passion for both the lesson and the learners.  Her own passion for teaching flowed into the room on her words.


It took Brooke Fox to put me over the edge.  She played an excerpt from what I assume is a motivational speech given by Charlie Plumb, who was shot down over the Sea of Hanoi during the Vietnam War, parachuted to safety but was captured and incarcerated as a POW for six years. Evidently, this gentleman was out to dinner one night many years later when a complete stranger approached him and asked him his name.  When the reply came as expected, the fellow said, “You know the day you were shot down?  I packed your parachute that morning.”  The implications were obvious – as teachers, we never know when some mundane exchange with a student will end up being very important to him or her, so we better pay close attention to every one of those moments.  We may be packing parachutes daily.

Brooke Fox better photo

Except Brooke turned it on its head, and talked about the times in her life that being a teacher acted as her parachute.  She recounted several moments in her life roughly equivalent to being shot down, and how returning to a classroom gave her what she needed to hit the ground safely and fly another day.  In doing so she unplugged my basket of memories of the same times in my life, where the smiling faces of those before me in a classroom or on a field sustained me when I needed it most.  I had to fight back the tears.

So I have never been more excited for a school year to begin.  As a faculty we cannot wait to get to the work of providing students fabric, factual and emotional, that they may hold on to in their lives.  The joyful mystery of that work is that in packing other people’s parachutes, we receive fabric in return that lifts up us and keeps us well.


Thank you in advance to all those colleagues and students who have reconvened in this marvelous place.  Whether or not we intend it specifically, if we go about it the right way we will all keep each other aloft.

It is good to begin again.


More than a Diploma


A Prayer for the Class of 2015

I used to make the following remarks, or something very much like them, to my senior Political Science students on the last day of class each year. Now that I am no longer teaching at that level, I guess a print version will have to do.

Odds are I will not see any of you again until graduation festivities.  Those will come and go in such a blur that I will not have the opportunity to wish you a proper farewell at that time.  So let me take a few minutes to tell you something very important and absolutely true.

Since faculty gets to sit down front, we can see the many expressions that float across your faces.  I have studied seniors from that spot 28 times now, and I always see a mixture of the same emotions.  Some of you will not want to leave that stage you look so beautiful sitting upon.  For some, the notion of leaving home to start a new life with strangers, including roommates very much unknown to you, fills you with a dread you may not wish to admit.  Especially if you have been here for twelve years, the unfamiliar may seem frightening.  And so deep down, some of you may want high school never to end.

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At the other end of the spectrum are those for whom the end of senior year simply cannot come soon enough.  You will sit on those hard chairs under those bright lights straining to hear your named called, desperate to get your diploma, flee the stage, and start a new life.  I have noticed a few of you for whom the time of leaving seemed to come in February or March.  I am not sorry to have detained you until May, but am glad for you now that the time for ending is actually here.

The majority of you feel some mix of those two emotions.  I watch you smile as a close friend gets a graduation award.  That smile is born of union, a feeling of shared experience, that is so real to you now but may well prove elusive in the future.  A part of you wants those relationships to last a while longer, if not forever.  But then when your name gets called, your smile turns into a beam, revealing a pride in accomplishment, a deep sense of completion, and the willingness to move on.

Whatever your frame of mind is that Friday, you must know this.


The faculty members have been seated in front of you for a reason.  Given the investment they have made in your growth, they deserve to get one last really close look at you.  I want you to stop and think for a moment what must be going through their minds – through my mind.  We practice this craft because we love you, or more precisely, because we love watching you grow up.  I know, I know, “those that can, do; those that can’t, teach.”  That may be true for many teachers across this country, but it rarely applies to any of us here.  And even if it is the case in some degree for some of us, the incontrovertible truth is that we feel intense satisfaction at helping you grow from first graders (Glenda Holbrook once called you “worms on a hot sidewalk”) to the accomplished and confident seniors we see before us.

Consider for a moment what Mrs. Warn must be thinking as she watches her third-grade girls, now so mature.  Think of what Mrs. Wallace is feeling as she watches those men on the stage that used to be runny-nosed, shirttails-out little boys in 4A.  Think about how Mr. Horstman took you into his world cultures class but really into his life.  Think about the endless hours Mr. Watson spent coaxing you, driving you, to be brave enough to present yourself for who you really are in dance.



Remember the countless times Coach Duffy “bumped” you in the halls, and what that knuckle-to-knuckle contact stood for.  And as for me, I remember as if it were yesterday when many of you first walked into Room 239 and were confronted by me with Xeno’s paradox.  Watching you wrestle with that unexpected problem on opening day was delightful.  I have kept tabs on you more than you might know, delighting in your intellectual growth, and celebrating your accomplishments.  But it is seeing each one of you grow over the years into a person – strong, outgoing, and so optimistic – that fills me up and pleases my soul.  As you leave the stage I will try my best to avoid direct eye contact with any of you, for I have no interest in bursting into happy tears just at that moment.

So when that recessional tune you have picked begins and you rise to your feet one last time, feel the wave of support the entire faculty has for you.  Ride it as long as you can, down those aisles and perhaps even out into the courtyard.  The wave will recede quickly enough. But please, please realize that you will leave that stage with much more than a diploma.  You will also carry all the love, the pride, and the earnest hope for your continued success that each member of this faculty can give you.

Upper School Graduation, Friday, May 29th, 2015.

So this is goodbye.  Be well. Be good.  Don’t be a stranger. And as you go forward, make me, somehow, even prouder of you than I already am.

He’s Everywhere


The annual confluence of Easter and Passover occurred earlier this month.  Each celebration asks its believers to consider what is important in this life and what is not.  Surely, with the possible exception of Memorial Day, Easter and Passover are the most reflective of observations.  Regardless of your specific faith, or even if you have no particular faith to follow, taking time to be reflective is crucial, I believe.

For years my family, or that portion of my family that was within traveling distance, would attend the Easter service at the National Cathedral in Washington, D.C.  We were only able to do so because my sister was the Director of Development for the National Cathedral School for Girls, a venerable independent school that shares the so-called “Cathedral Hill” with the church and with the St. Alban’s School for Boys.  In that position she could obtain “tickets” to the 11:00 service. (As an aside, a part of me always rued the notion of needing “tickets” to go to church.  But the reality was that thousands more desired to attend than there was room to accommodate them, and a line would start forming à la Duke basketball down Wisconsin Avenue on Saturday evening, so I guess those associated directly with the church needed entry documents.)

I adored the service, not for its specific religious content but rather for the grandeur of the celebration, and particularly the music.  The organist, accompanied by two kettle drums and a brass section, would play as the last prelude Charles-Marie Widor’s  “Toccata in C,” which actually has a more formal name not necessary to be set forth here.

It is a stirring piece, fabulously difficult to play, which, a little like Ravel’s more famous and profane “Bolero,” grows in intensity and power in an unstoppable rush of sound until it finally rouses itself up and concludes with a glorious fanfare. It would take eight to ten seconds for the sound to finish reverberating around all that granite and give way to silence. And then for a few seconds the silence would be punctuated by a squeak of a chair leg being moved or the rasp of a throat being cleared.

And then would come the moment that I had anticipated ever since the previous year’s Easter.  Way in the back of the church, singing in the soft soprano of small boys, the Cathedral Boy Choristers would begin the hymn, “Christ the Lord is Risen Today.” You can live by the words of the hymn, or you may ignore or even reject them, but at that moment there was absolutely no way of denying that angels had in fact arrived on Cathedral Hill.  The juxtaposition of the mighty organ and the pure, unsullied voices of those children would convince me that, at least at that place and time, God exists.

And then my sister moved on to a position with Marts and Lundy and there were no more passes to the Cathedral.  Yet each member of my family and I craved a way to re-create that moment.  What could persuade us, if only for a second or two, that there is a higher power in our universe? We found an equally glorious and affirmative answer at the bottom of the Great Falls of the Potomac, scarcely four miles as the eagle flies from the Cathedral. The river, having gathered up all the rain and melted snow from Virginia, West Virginia, Maryland, and Pennsylvania, encounters there several rows of huge granite rocks, each trying its best to keep the water from making its way to its appointed destination.  But the river, several hundred yards across at that point and facing an 80-foot drop, will not be denied. The water crashes and cascades and swirls on its way down, throwing great sprays of mist and making a noise that at once deafens the ear and touches the soul.

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Here I will employ a word much overused – the sight and sound of that falling water is majestic.  Both created by granite, the majesty of cascading water is much like the majesty of a church organ in a mighty cathedral. So by the river, as well as in a cathedral, one must conclude that, in whatever form you choose to believe, God indeed exists. And in the presence of majesty you are freed to reflect upon what is important in this life and what is not.

Every morning before classes begin we ask our older students to stop and reflect.  I am glad we do so. I wish I could import the sound of that organ or that waterfall every morning, but alas, I cannot.  But that’s okay.  It does not take several hundred tons of granite for you to become reflective.  A seat in the Johnson Theater or Price Auditorium is enough.

After all, He’s everywhere.

The World According to … Runzo?


Bill Miller spoke at a Captain’s Club meeting a few weeks ago.  Having been my wrestling coach over forty years ago, Bill enjoys a special niche in my memory.  I was lucky enough to have a few minutes’ conversation with him after the meeting, and it was lovely catching up.  We shook hands, even hugged, and exchanged the typical “How are your kids?” questions and eventually wished each other a sincere farewell.  We spent no time reliving the good old days.

Wrestling 1971

Which is remarkable, particularly when it comes to the sport of wrestling.  Of all the sports we undertake here, I think wrestling creates the strongest, most unbreakable bond between coaches, especially those who no longer spend their time on the mat.  Of course there are contenders for that honor like baseball and lacrosse – actually, I think lacrosse finishes a close second – but when you put two former wrestling coaches together they simply cannot resist talking about this incident or that from their days in singlets.  Make it three or four coaches, and at that precise instant the rest of the world will cease to be relevant to them.

I am not being critical here.  You want every coach to be passionate about his sport, and there is a collegiality among former coaches that is generally positive.  But it tickles me how inevitably grapplers will engage in remembrances of things past (forgive me, Monsieur Proust) when they sit and talk with each other.

Wrestling, I think, produces those connections for the same reason that it is not as popular with the students as it might once have been.  That is, wrestling is without doubt the most intimate of sports.  It is based entirely on the skill of physically manipulating another person’s body.  As such, it requires the most constant and intentional skin-on-skin contact.  Many boys in young adolescence these days will react to that fundamental fact with “Eeeewwww!” To work out on the mat with a classmate practice after practice is to get to know that person very well.    Wrestling is also completely dependent on aggression as a motivator.  The kind of gentleman that would rise to the level of a wrestling coach has somewhere in him a ferocity that when met with equal and opposing ferocity gives rise to respect and friendship.


I wrestled my junior and senior years here because, at least initially, Mr. Massey told me to.  I was helpless as a basketball player and had no desire to play soccer slogging around in the mud on 35-degree afternoons.  (Yes, soccer was a winter sport lo, those many years ago.)  And when Mr. Massey informed me one November day that we were short one heavyweight and that I had been nominated for the post, my response was, “Yes sir.” In 1969 one simply could not say “no” to Mr. Massey.

Coach Miller welcomed my arrival on what was the third or fourth day of practice without ceremony.  He then made the next three or four weeks a living hell.  In addition to getting me into wrestling shape, he understood that I might be at actual physical risk.  You see, “heavyweight” was in those days called “Unlimited.”  My second match was against a young man from St. Christopher’s who weighed in well above the 300 lb. mark, and it ended poorly—at least for me.  After 50 or 60 seconds of submergence and the consequent pin, Toy_Wrestling_CroppedI could not help but detect a smile on Coach Miller’s face as I dragged my flattened self back to the bench.  I asked him what was so funny, and he said that I had made the sound of air being squeezed out of giant bellows.  I saw nothing remotely funny at the time.

See?  There I go.  Forty-odd years later I remember that moment as clear as crystal and cannot help retelling it.  I think that’s because in the weeks and months and years after that moment Coach Miller pushed me beyond that which I thought I was capable of.  I can remember sitting on the locker room bench after one particularly grueling practice, unable to rise to my feet and wondering why on earth I was permitting this sort of foolishness to continue.  But you know what?  I can also remember walking out to my car twenty minutes later in the cold dark of a winter evening feeling strong and full and very happy.

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The image of some present senior shaking hands or even hugging a 70-year-old Coach Runzo decades from now fills me with delight.  I wish more of our guys could have that to look forward to.

Great seeing you, Coach Miller.

It Was A Wonderful Life


John Goodlad passed away last New Year’s Eve.  Who is John Goodlad, you might ask, and why would he be the subject of a Savage Chronicle?  Good questions, both, and questions that deserve answers.

Goodlad-Profile-200x275Mr. Goodlad was a career educator, as well as an education scholar and reformer.  He was born in British Columbia, and spent his early years as a teacher in a rural one-room schoolhouse serving those children of all ages within driving or riding range.  The space was close and confusing, but it was ultimately his, and over his years there he came to some conclusions about what true education really looks like.  When he moved on to the more urban and modern world, he also came to the conclusion that our public schools today had wandered very far from that ideal.  He spent his final four decades in Seattle researching and writing about ways that our schools might rediscover some of the best things about the little red school-house.

Okay, you say, that answers the first question.  Why the second?  For that, I want you to get in your mind’s eye the final scene from the classic film It’s a Wonderful Life, where George Bailey discovers just what a difference he has made to his hometown of Bedford Falls simply by being there.  In ways he has never considered, George discovers how much the lives of his friends and neighbors were improved or even saved by something he did.  At risk of torturing the analogy, if Norfolk Academy is Bedford Falls, then John Goodlad is our George Bailey.  I can think of no other person not directly associated with the school who had such a large role in making this school a better place to teach and learn.

You see, Goodlad published his masterpiece, A Place Called School, late in 1984.   Armed with both massive empirical research and his formative experiences as a teacher, Goodlad was able to show how so much of the structure of our school systems and the schools within them was actively impeding the crucial act of learning.  large-538e19780b45eA Place Called SchoolBit by bit he took apart the old certainties about age grouping and curriculum and the layout of our classrooms in favor of maximizing those magic moments of learning between student and teacher, student and text, and student and experience.  When I read the book the first time I found myself thinking, “You know, that’s right!!” every couple of pages.

The reason I read it was that John Tucker made me. In fact, every faculty member and much of the non-teaching staff at Norfolk Academy read it.  And while much of the book focused on the downward spiral of public education, there was plenty of “red meat” for us to digest.  Goodlad had coined a very ordinary phrase for what he was suggesting needed to happen – “school improvement.” He urged every teacher to reexamine his pedagogy and to look for areas in which he could, simply enough, get better.

Many of us concluded that to do that we had to break the cycle of lecture, note-taking, and assessment, a rhythm we were falling into more and more.  And so we took the official “Great Books” curriculum, the brain child of Mortimer Adler.  This led to the creation of seminar days, which in the first years were very rigorous examinations of difficult texts by Upper School faculty and students.  We began at the beginning by exploring the Book of Genesis.  Soon we were tackling behavioral science through “Imitation of Film-Mediated Aggression,” by Bandura and Ross, one of the first comprehensive looks at whether violence on screen stimulates violent behavior in reality.  We went after political theory by working our way through J. S. Mill’s “On Liberty,” perhaps the most challenging text we ever confronted.   We even tried to get at the heart of the protest movements of the 1960’s by reading song lyrics from the likes of Phil Ochs, Bob Dylan, and Pete Seeger.  But always it was never about a topic – it was always about a text.  And the techniques learned in seminar days became integral parts of daily instruction.

Not everyone on both sides of the teacher’s desk came willingly.  Many students saw three rigorous seminar days per year as an unjustifiable add-on to an already hectic academic routine, particularly the required writing of critical essays at the end of the day.  Many teachers worried about the loss of class time and the additional preparation required for each seminar day.  But John Tucker and his chief executive officer, Tunstall Director Will Stacey, would not be deterred.  John understood Goodlad’s primary message—that the old comfortable forms, curricula, and teaching methods were beginning to get between teacher and student and actually inhibit learning. After A Place Called School, teachers here learned the habit of constantly and consistently exploring ways to better reach our students, a habit which continues to this day.

17.Tucker_cropped Put it this way.  The two giants of our 20th century school, J. B. Massey and John Tucker, have their official portraits facing each other in the lobby of our reception area.  Each gentleman is holding a book near and dear to his heart.  Mr. Massey has the Bible in his hands; Mr. Tucker is holding A Place Called School, which had been published 16 years before the portrait was painted.


They both picked the right book.